“Try me” instead of “Why me” might be extremely cliche this day and age, but the meaning still stands true. Alcoholics and addicts can no longer view themselves as the victim and neither should anyone else. People that view alcoholics and addicts as victims may very well be enablers to that persons addiction. While the alcoholic and addict needs to be selfless instead of selfish and starting looking at solutions instead of problems. I truly enjoy reading people’s stories and listening to journey’s of recovery. These stories that discuss the journey shared with others are selfless and should be shared to help others possibly find resolutions / solutions to help them find their way to active recovery. Being the victim of “why me” and taking that stance allows you to take two steps back, instead of two steps forward. When it comes to this, a judge and jury would find me guilty as charged the first time I went through treatment. I was a poor bastard that couldn’t think beyond my own nose. I went through treatment because I knew I had a problem with alcohol, but more importantly, I was trying to stay out of jail (which didn’t necessarily work).
For the last 4 years of active recovery, I’ve have taken a “Try Me” approach and it has worked for my recovery. I admitted to myself and others I was an alcoholic, sought treatment and turned my addiction over to my Higher Power, God. I don’t sleep for hours during the day anymore and haven’t for years. Sleeping was one of my coping mechanisms to avoid thoughts of drinking. I face adversity and challenges head on, where before I would avoid controversy in my life. I’m actually proud to be a recovering alcoholic and not because I could wear a badge of honor if I wanted to, but because I can think more clearly and be a better husband, father, son, teacher, coach, brother and Son of God. I also get to serve others in recovery or who are still battling active addiction.
This life is no longer about me, but it’s about what is best for my family and how I can serve others while improving myself. In treatment, I was told to be selfish about protecting my active recovery and I still stand strong with not letting things interfere with my recovery, but I have realized a person can protect their sobriety / recovery and still be open to their community and world.
I live free today from active addiction because I have a postive, optimistic outlook on being a recovering alcoholic and I face my demons with a strategic approach. It’s about the mind, body, spirit and how those things collectively work together in staying balanced. Keeping a balanced life with the three parts of yourself is critical to a successful recovery and takes practice / patience to achieve this.